AFFIRMATION OF THE DAY: I am taking care of myself!
Not setting clear boundaries for myself became very clear to me when I reached a place in my life when my home didn’t feel like my home anymore. I felt like my life was spiraling out of control and I didn’t know how to stop it. My family and my home were my pride and joy. Everything I had worked so hard for. With good intentions of helping people I love and care about, I didn’t see that it was hurting me until I realized that my business, relationships, and family were too intertwined. With family members in every room of my house and personal belongings, over involved in my personal and business affairs. I started to feel like an outsider in my own home, and in some ways, my own life. Feeling like I was being taken over by some foreign invader, with nothing I could do or say about it, I realized that I hadn’t set ANY boundaries for myself. Angry with myself for over-stepping my own boundaries. My life began to feel like it simply wasn’t working anymore.
Taking a closer look at it all, and where I have put myself, I also realized that with the best of intentions, my need and desire to help others whenever I can, I was also getting way over involved in their affairs and matters as well. Clearly another way of not setting boundaries for myself.
Without clear boundaries, I don’t feel strong enough to say no, I am not experiencing any freedom, I am not honoring myself, nor do I feel able to take care of myself. This simply doesn’t work anymore.
I am grateful that I have come to a place of acceptance and responsibility for myself and my boundaries (or lack thereof). What I have learned is that I am responsible for me and this is where I needed to grow the most, so here I am ready to forge ahead, wherever that may take me. With the firmest of boundaries I have ever had. Lessons learned.
Are you setting firm and clear boundaries for yourself and your life?