Resolving An Issue

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Resolving An Issue

AFFIRMATION OF THE DAY: I am working my process and healing issues!

I am reminded today that sometimes life presents each of us with challenging experiences, people, or situations. And that how we relate to ourselves, the other people involved, and the situation itself is what’s important. Having a healing strategy to use when we experience emotional upset and judgement can be very empowering. The issue that I experienced is irrational feelings of guilt and upset with myself for somebody else’s behavior, that I know I can not change. I know his/her actions are completely out of my control, but somehow, I managed to take on the responsibility for it and experienced so much anguish and despair over it. How do I step out of it and get back on track? I referred back to some notes from the University of Santa Monica for guidance:

Step 1 – Acknowledgment
“This event has triggered upset inside of me. I’m aware that I am feeling upset and out of balance.”
Step 2 – Clear Positive Intention
“My intention is to heal the hurt that has surfaced and to make peace with myself so that I can experience neutrality inside myself about what he/she does and how I reacted.”
Step 3 – Acceptance
“No matter what I think, say, feel, or do, I can choose to be loving with myself no matter what. I accept that life brings me learning opportunities so that I have a chance to heal what is unresolved inside of me. For this, I am grateful. As I heal and resolve these issues, I grow spiritually.”
Step 4 – 100% Responsibility
“My feelings are my domaine. People do not “cause” my feelings. Situations may occur which trigger upset already present inside of me. I have choices of how to respond.”
Step 5 – Self-Forgiveness
“I love and forgive myself for judging myself as wrong and for judging him/her as wrong.”
Step 6 – Creative Solution
When I am so upset, I can’t be still enough to meditate through it, I practice free-form writing. I put all my feelings about the situation on paper and later tear it up. This helps me get my feelings out and most times past hurts surface and I become aware of more “work” that needs to be done.
Step 7 – Gratitude & Self-Appreciation
“I appreciate myself for my willingness to honestly share this and work with moving into my own acceptance and compassion for myself and for him/her. I am grateful for the opportunities to learn and how to work my process and heal my consciousness.”

What situations in your life need resolution? Using the 7 steps above may be helpful in working your process and healing your consciousness.

REMEMBER: This also works with self forgiveness!!


  1. Excellent advise! I will post in the place where I retreat when I have these feelings, as a reminder. Thank you for helping make life better.

  2. I absolutely love this! This works for any situation big or small!

    • Thank you, Irene! True, true. Remembering to use them is key! I feel so much better 🙂

  3. Beautifully and simply put – this is not an easy exercise! but you’ve made it manageable by creating these steps, thank you so much for sharing! I’m posting this on my bulletin board as a daily reminder 🙂

    • Thank you, Martha! These steps may seem rather basic, but remembering to use them is key for resolving issues on any scale. I hope you found this article helpful 🙂 Have a wonderful day!

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